CROSS ROADS - WHAT DO I DO ?

    Hello guys.
 I just want to say I'm so sorry again and this is actually for the last time 🙂 because I know you are tired of seeing this all the time but I promise to now update my blog every week (so help me God).

     Before I continue, I don't know if my blog annoys anyone (like, who does this girl think she is ?, etc.) I am so sorry if it does but my reason for opening this up was just to have a platform on which people who go through down times in their life could just come, read a few posts of mine and just generally walk off after feeling better. I write to with the hope of making people feel good, that's honestly what I do and why I do it.😌 

    Thanks for seeing this from my perspective now, and in addition, this post is inspired by what I notice a lot of people go through on a daily basis: DECISION
MAKING DILEMMAS.

 As you know, everything we do has to do with making decisions which could help the situation or make it worse, like really worse or just leave things stagnant and most times it feels like we know the right thing(s) to do but just seek opinions outside to know if what you are about to do is right and then after seeking opinions, they tell you what you want to hear or tell you what could bring you down if what you're seeking their opinions on has to do with your growth because most people just want to see your downfall and nothing else and then you start to doubt what you were thinking of initially knowing very well that this other person is misleading you.

Sounds impossible, right ?
     I said so to myself when it came up as a topic during a conversation till someone gave us the story of Salome (the weak daughter). Can be found in Mark chapter 6 verses 21-28. It's a very interesting story actually and you should check it out.
So yeah, Salome was asked by the king to make just ONE request promising that no matter what it is, he would do it for her. 🎈. 'Blank cheque' you'll say 💃 but Salome made a mistake by deciding to ask her mom. I am not trying to say that's a bad idea but when she went over to ask her mom, her mom told her to ask for the head of John the Baptist.

Like what ?! This is where Salome being weak comes in because I mean, what was the use of the head to her and she was asked to make just one request. What happened to telling her mom the head was of no use and she wanted a better thing ? It happened already though but I find it so funny.
     Quick Question: WHO DO YOU MEET FOR ADVICE ?

     This is a good case of negative influence and it feels like there's more to the words of advice they give because despite knowing the truth, we still want to go the wrong way but trust me, I was able to make a few points on how to avoid negative influences and they are:

1) Have a relationship with God.

2) Never forget what you stand for.

3) Have a mind of your own.

4) Weigh situations and even if the right thing to do might hurt you, it's just for the time being and everything will be okay.

5) Be collected and ready to do God's will.

     As usual, thank you for taking time to read through and I promise to have something up here next week so please subscribe, thank you and I love you ❤.
PS, do not forget to drop a comment too ☺.

OVERCOMING DEPRESSIVE MOMENTS

     Hello there, thank you for making out time to read this piece and unlike how I've been in the past year, I promise to be so quick with what it is I have to say.

     Actually, this is sort of an update as the real piece mistakenly got deleted when I was trying to post my last story (Yes, I know very well that I'm disorganised).

So going straight !

      I would not want to start with the definition of what DEPRESSION is as I even doubt there's an actual definition because it is more like a feeling which uhm, really weighs one down and can bring about a whole lot of negative thoughts.

     There's a whole lot of things to actually discuss when it comes to depression, yeah ? But the only I want to do right now is explain a few things I have noticed about it and how we can go about the situations.
I promise to discuss the other parts some other time.

Let's get started !

     First of all, there are three types of people when it comes to talking about DEPRESSION so I'll start by talking about them.

● The Real Victim: Yes, you read that right and you will know why I said that after you read the last point.
So now you are depressed for some certain reasons like not being a 'perfect' child to your parents because maybe you do not do well at school (if you've never had like 5 Fs at once, please do not nod your head here) and they just come to the conclusion that you do not pay so much attention to school work and you "play around" having no idea how you work your ass at school but some things just don't work out or maybe your parents are trying to get a divorce and it's so much on you because you lack parental love and care and it just feels like you are really really alone and you have nothingggg.
Sigh, don't worry, you'll be okay.

● ????? : Yeah, this group of persons aren't depressed and it isn't like they wish the situations upon themselves but it's just the environment they find themselves in.
Talking from experience, I used to have some issues back then which made me think a lot and I realized with time that my friends who we used to really gist together and do some fun stuff started acting like me and before I knew it, we were talking deep issues that we by God's grace, would have no concern with till we die 😂. It was that deep.
With that said, we have people who the vibes around them just makes them feel depressed.

●Wannabes: Till tomorrow 😂, I have no idea why some persons will sit, think and start to wish themselves bad situations. Like, hello sister ? hello brother ?? This thing you're happily wishing upon yourself is what some other people are praying to get themselves out of.
You're also wondering why, yeah ?
I can't answer too but I have noticed most do it get sympathy. What ?!?! 😂 Oh no, I'm out of words at this point but if you know anyone who does this, I plead with you that you remember them in your prayers please.

WHAT CAN BE DONE TO GET RID OF THE THOUGHTS/FEELINGS ?
The points about to be listed are things that I did during the time I was going through stuff and tada ! Your girl started acting normal, again.

1) Praying to God: Not gonna lie, I was at one point tired of hearing this thing. Like, I would tell someone a problem and next thing they will say is 'Pray Mobola, pray.' I'm always thinking in my head if they're okay because I wanted a TB Joshua kinda miracle. Touch and fix then sigh 😌 everything is back to normal but first of all, that's only possible with God too so who isn't okay here 😭 ? Me ! 😂😂😂😂😂
You know what it means to pray and you don't have to start getting dramatic about the whole thing please. Just have faith in God, thank Him for His grace and say a tell Him everything you want to say to your bestie when in trouble.

2) Challenge negative thoughts: You really have to. You can't lay in bed all day thinking about how people do not love us or how pathetic our lives are. No, sweetheart. Look out there. See the number of people that want you but your attitude won't just let them. See these people and talk to them, feel free and let go everything off your mind after praying to God.

3) Challenge yourself: Yhupp. Challenge yourself ! It would be really nice to sit and think of things you want to change in your life and things you want to achieve. Think of one great person you admire and want to be like. They didn't sit down, feeling depressed and then all those things came like - 👀 hey girl/boy, here's a whole lot of riches and everything you need to be great in life, take and take because you deserve it for being a lazy girl. Nah. So I think it's high time you get up, challenge yourself and before you start to think if I practice what I preach, Yes, I do. I started working out sometimes last year 😂 and I've been seeing bomb ass results though(you'd see pictures later 😑).

Boom boom... I think I'm done 😂. I'll have the second part up very soon.

Thank you for taking time to read through all this.
God bless you and I love you.

P.s if you ever need to talk about anything bothering you, my Instagram is @mobss.a
Feel free to tell me whatever it is. I love you ❤.

WE ARE PASSENGERS.

      

     Hello there ! What's up ? What's up ? How are you doing ? 😂

     Before I begin, I'd like to really apologise for being so inconsistent. Likeeee I am so so so sorry please🙏.
Thank you.

     Oh well, for those who really care to know how I've been, (if they really did, they would have known somehow somehow but it's fine. Who my well being help 😕 ?) I have just been here like that. This past week has been too busy and 😭 I don't even know but I need a break from everything so bad 😭 which is one of the reasons why I left WhatsApp and it has been so hard but then, I've realised a few things in the past days.

     Today's post was inspired by a sermon I was fortunate to pay attention to at this wedding I attended today because big time, it touched my life and once again, Happy Married Life Celina ❤.

Ehn she didn't marry herself but I was not able to take a picture of the couple and please forgive how the picture looks 😔. I should get a new phone in January next year by God's grace.

     So yeah, straight to today's topic - We Are Passengers -
If you follow my posts steady, you'd realise I suck at giving titles but this particular one is an extract of an example the Reverend gave today.

     "WE ARE PASSENGERS" sounds familiar to me but I can't seem to remember the context in which it is being used but this particular one today has to do with us the children. Yes, US.
                   Wondering how ?

      I was equally lost when he made mention but in further explanation, he said all he is trying to say is that our current family now i.e having the kids live with their parents is just for a while as it can be related to being PASSENGERS on a bus and at some point, we would get down which will have just the parents living alone once again.

     Now you might be thinking if this really has to do with we the children and yes, it does.

     Well, he didn't say anything to the kids really as he was referring to the couple but somehow, I was able to get something out of that which I'm sure you are able to sort of understand now.

     As children, we often times have no respect for our parents when it comes to certain things which I feel is so bad because even when we feel we can make certain decisions for ourselves, we still need their advice or maybe their opinion too so things can really work but then I had this lecturer who will say "PERSONAL experience is the best teacher" which is so true 😂😂😂😂😂.

     So yeah, being that we are on a bus as passengers, we are to pay undivided attention to the conductor (our parents) very well so that we don't get misled kind of and end up at the wrong place because at some point, our parents were passengers too but if they failed to obey their parents or to be submissive as children, they would have missed a whole lot.

    Sigh, I'm glad you finally understood 😁.

     Without saying much anymore as this is probably a whole lot already, all I am trying to say that in life, we really have to listen so well to our parents, the teachings they give and be sure to learn a thing or two because most people are taught thoroughly but they find it so hard to learn. In so doing, we can pass unto the younger ones for when we will be conductors too and have to train our own children ☺.

     I'd like to know in the comments section if there is/are any regrets you have as a result of not listening to your parents 😂 and till when next I am able to post again, hopefully Saturday next week, be good ❤.

     But wait please before you leave, I'd just like to say that Hausas (tradition wise) are too awesome. Like it's just away from the regular that we do and are used to so 👏.

The picture I'm about to share now has no business with this post but the whole parade thing makes me go crazy and I just feel like sharing with you guys.

Don't forget to drop a comment, thank you ❤.